Much has been written in the Lutheran blogosphere about marriage and procreation and arguments for and against contraception have been hashed and rehashed, and I don’t intend to do that again here, at least, that is not my primary purpose. Obviously our ability to have children largely depends on our individual circumstances. Most of these discussions, for better or for worse, tend to revolve around the children, and whether we see them as a bane or a blessing. Perhaps we need to back up a bit and talk about fertility itself. And more specifically, how do we husbands view our wives’ fertility? Do we respect it? Do we see it as a gift? Do we do what we can to help our wives see it in this light, or do we by our words and actions encourage our wives to despise their God-given fertility rather than rejoice in it as a precious gift?
I guess the point I am trying to get at here is that if we husbands want our wives to rejoice in child bearing and see it as a blessing and as something worth going through several times, we need first of all to learn to respect a woman’s fertility and hold it up as a precious gift, and guard against giving the impression to our wives that we do not consider it as such. The other thing I think we can do to encourage a frame of mind like one might find over at CSPP (Concordian Sisters of Perpetual Parturition) is to help create a family and household environment that encourages a willing committment to procreation. Certainly this is where the marital rubber (no pun intended…really!) hits the road. I am hoping the discussion on this post can revolve around the “how” of this issue. What can husbands do to help our wives see their fertility as something of great value when so many other factors in day to day life seem to scream out: “Stop the madness…NOW!” Wha’dy’all think about this?